The importance of receiving, and not just once a year!

Its my birthday week! Woo Hoo party time! I am deliberately honouring myself and loving it (hell yeah i’m special!). I’m having a massage, splurged on a fresh supply of my favourite skin care products and organised my own party so I get to hang out with all my favourite people (and get cake that I didn’t buy). I’ve reflected over the past year and given myself a big congratulations for having so much courage in creating my reality that I love. It feels SO GOOD! 

So why we don’t honour ourselves everyday and allow ourselves to receive so much good stuff when we need it to stay happy and healthy? 

Why do we feel more ok to receive on our birthday as if its our one chance a year to soak up the love without hesitation or feeling uncomfortable (maybe some people still get a bit squirmy when receiving, especially that dreaded happy birthday song and exposing our age!).

Here it goes…

Our willingness and ability to receive is directly related to our self worth 

The good part is, if you are able to allow the good stuff to come to you on your birthday without questioning whether you deserve it or questioning why people are being so kind, then you are capable of allowing the goodness everyday which has the ability to transform your life!

The ability to receive is our ability to accept and allow, if we block our ability to receive we get into trouble because we cut off our ability to be nurtured which put us off balance.

The problem with receiving…

You are so selfish! Who! me? No I'm not! 

We can easily identify receiving with being selfish, to avoid being selfish we allow ourselves to give give give and not receive in balance.

Nature is balance, when we block receiving we block the natural flow of the universe. 

We got taught early on that giving is good (well done scratch and sniff sticker) and receiving is not as good (and if you did receive, you better be nice and return the favour! everyone likes a nice person)

Lurking underneath our cool and calm exterior may be these blocks that are stopping us from enjoying life to the fullest

• I don’t believe you! Someone gives you a compliment and rather than accepting it and believing it, you immediately consider why they are saying that and if they mean it or what they want from you. This is simply due to an imbalance of self worth and love. Antidote - say thank you and thats that, end of story.
• I have to give back but even more! Not wanting to receive help, gifts, praise because of the feeling of obligation, I don’t want to feel obligated so I wont accept anything, i’ll just do it all on my own. Antidote, accept graciously without analysing what you must do in return, if the person giving to you is giving so they can get something back from you then this is their own issue with giving and receiving and its not your responsibility to keep their expectations in check.
• But I’m not one of those needy women! We associate receiving with being needy (aka weakling) The independent person craves freedom but also secretly craves love and nurturing (it’s a basic human emotional need, lets face it), we all have needs and it’s ok to accept help, love and affection from others and yourself. The antidote, allow yourself to receive knowing that you have the ability to fulfil your own needs also but you chose to enjoy the connection with others.
• I don’t want to be the centre of attention! Yuck! Why is everyone looking at me! make me disappear please! We feel ok with attention when we believe that we are valuable and good enough to receive it. Here’s a tip! no one is more valuable than anyone else, no one is more important than anyone else, we get to decide that and it makes us more comfortable with being the centre of attention. You don’t need to improve in some way to validate receiving attention.
• If I give they will love and accept me, if I take they may not like me, we are driven to be loved and accepted, we can often have a problematic belief that people will only appreciate us if we have something to offer them other than simply being ourselves. The people you want in your life will love you regardless of what you can do for them. 

Blocking our ability to receive has some pretty detrimental effects

Not only does this block reinforce our feeling of not being worthy, it may manifest in our physical body as 

• Digestive upset as our bodies need to feel freely nurtured and nourished to digest and assimilate nutrients
• Unhealthy and undesired weight gain or weight loss because we must give and receive freely and openly to be nourished, not putting ourselves first and nurturing others as a priority 
• Heart problems because of blocking love 
• Stress and anxiety because feeling alone like we need to do it all ourselves
• Fatigue and burnout from doing it all ourselves and feeling like its all up to us
• Depression from blocking flow of love internal and external, feeling isolated and overwhelmed by responsibilities of life
• Insomnia because of our ability to receive nurturing that comes from sleep and deeply resting, our ability to surrender to nurturing of sleep

Energetically blocking nurturing puts a wall up and can prevent meaningful connection with ourselves and others

This year on my birthday and everyday I allow myself to bathe in the love and care for myself and from others. The wall is down and i’m energetically ready to receive! I haven’t always felt this way, I would say it’s the first year that i’ve been 100% willing to receive. Why? because I know my motivation for receiving is pure, it comes from knowing that i’m good enough and worthy of it, and without it I feel unwell and off balance so it is my duty to myself to allow.

In a kinesiology session we can further understand why you may not give and receive freely and openly and remove the blocks to help free you from lack of feeling nurtured. We are all special and are worthy of feeling internal comfort, we just may have got a bit lost along the way. 

I promise you that you are worthy! The catch is that only you have the ability to honour yourself in everyday, it’s all up to you! but seriously how great is that! you get to do it for you and that means its 100% possible, you get to create a wonderful and meaningful life for you.

Email me to find out how kinesiology can help you, hello@opentolife.com.au