How to Really Love Yourself

The last two weeks has been a love bomb thats blown up in my face, I didn't see it coming, I thought I was loving myself, I felt loving toward myself, I always look after myself, I rarely turn against myself with punishing thoughts and actions, I honour my needs and wants but deep down I’ve always felt I was missing an important part...

I was loving but not embodying love, not true divine love, my love came with limitations and conditions especially toward myself

The first love bomb came from Reiki Master training the weekend before last where we stared some truths in the face, the fact that we are all living under the illusion that we are separate from the divine and each other which drives fear, and coming back to the truth of who we really are LOVE.

We dug out all of our limiting beliefs that create separation and connected with the abundance that is woven through all things.

“We don’t create abundance. Abundance is always present. We create limitations” - Arnold Patent

To work with Reiki energy you have to get out of your own way, what does that mean? Step out of false limitations, step into light and love where all is healed because there is no disconnect from the truth.

So I stepped out of my own way, out of doubt, worry, illusion, I stepped into a sense of freedom I was starting to get a real taste for and I liked it! I began to feel in the flow.

A sign that you're really loving is a sense of connectedness with synchronicities being part of every day.

The next love bomb hit even harder, I travelled to Melbourne to attend the Seven Sisters Festival which is a three day women's wellness festival which attracts thousands of women every year (check it out here). 

I thought the festival would be a bit of fun! I was kinda wrong! It was a mix of great pleasure and pain, I was challenged in ways i’ve never been before, I was invited to actually embody love, for real this time, not just in my head but my whole self, it hurt bad!

I attended a string of workshops all about trauma, suppressed emotions and fully expressing who we are and what we feel. We laughed, cried, danced, felt our pain and our pleasure, all witnessing each other and sharing in our common wounds. 

Its one thing to release your pain on your own, or with someone you know and trust but its a new level of vulnerability expressing yourself openly with women you've just met.

To embody love, the divine feminine, our true selves, whatever you want to call it, we have to love ourselves unconditionally from the inside out, witness ourselves with compassion of the divine mother, all of our parts, all of our shame, guilt, fear, anger, grief, as well a our empathy, love, forgiveness, hope, nurturing, and thoughtfulness.

Embodying love isn't all glitter, smiles & pretty dresses, its raw, uncomfortable and dirty, its accepting all the darkness as much as the light, it’s harmony 

Were taught from a young age that whats loveable and acceptable is nice, pretty and sweet. But thats a lie.

One exercise that helped me was looking with the eyes of the goddess, we went into a deep meditation where we saw ourselves as the Goddess and opened our eyes to view the women around us as the goddess & be seen as the goddess.

When we are seeing as the Goddess, we see beauty in all things, we lose judgement & expectations of ourselves and others, we connect authentically because we are not connecting from our wounds, we are connecting from our hearts.

So how do we embody love?

Here's what has helped me:

1. Accept that you are not separate but part of an abundant, loving universe. To accept yourself I have found it helps to either connect with your inner child or reflect on the love you have for your own children or a child you love (I think of my niece and nephew), do you love the child when they don't do what you ask? is the child always accepted by you regardless of what they do or don't do? see that you are no different to this beautiful child
2. Let go of the lies, write a list of all the limiting beliefs you have about yourself in relation to love and abundance, Susan had us write 100 as it pushed us to dig deeper than ever before!
3. Feel yourself, go inward and connect with the love within you and allow it to spread throughout your whole body
4. Express your love to yourself and others, help others see the truth by speaking it even if its scary
5. Do all things with loving presence, because love IS and it’s not about "doing love" but "being love" then love is expressed whenever you are in the present moment, take care with your tasks, feel your feet walking on the sand, taste your coffee, feel the fabric against your skin, look your lover in the eyes, BREATHE
6. Be yourself, speak, laugh, cry, dance, scream, paint, eat, hug, kiss, touch, groan, sing, allow yourself to express how you feel to, the Goddess doesn't hold back, she's not concerned with the judgements of others, she is committed to herself and living her life with love, she knows the truth of her actions
7. Get help to clear what's blocking you from embodying love in whatever way works for you, I of course recommend kinesiology, it is what has helped me and continues to help me find and clear subconscious blocks to loving myself and I see it helping people transform from doubt, unworthiness and self punishment to shifting to the truth and expressing themselves in a new way

Embodying self love is a journey we all share if we know it consciously or not. If you need some support to uncover whats holding you back from loving, kinesiology is a wonderful way to connect with the blocks and clear them.

If your'e ready to connect inward you can book a session with me online

Much love!
Karlie

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