Recovering from loss isn't clean and simple, its mostly a slow and uncomfortable process filled with tears, snot, outbursts and overwhelm, and just when you think its done, you feel it some more.
I believe that the emotions of loss, grief, fear, anger, sadness come in stages and are layers with each being removed we feel more free, moving closer to an open heart and the truth that we are the love we believe we have lost.
When we feel pain, our response is to close off to prevent any more uncomfortable feelings, and without knowing it we lock in the hurt.
We do this to avoid more hurt but this sense of protecting ourselves prolongs the healing process.
Our heart is always in the present moment.
Our heart doesn't have concerns for the past or future, its just wanting to give and receive love without barriers.
Our minds get stuck in the past, the memories, the thoughts of "before", we delve into the painful moments, the regret and our attachment to wishing the past was different so we can now feel something different.
So here are 5 ways to gently heal your heart
1. Be present
Your heart lives in the moment, when you connect with your heart, allow yourself to love YOU and meet your own needs for love, you can let go a little more and get back into the flow of life.
How do you love yourself? Good question, loving you is knowing your worth and that you're loveable just because you exist, it's accepting all you have done or not done, said or not said, drop judgement of self, be present with yourself, find pleasure in your own company, exploring your own wholeness, releasing the grip on needing anyone externally to be, do or say what you think you need to feel loveable.
2. Let it out & let go of expectations
All the emotions you feel, just allow them, be with them, without a fight or criticism, this is your bodies way of moving through, processing and releasing life experiences.
3. Express differently
As humans we have an amazing capacity to keep doing the same things over and over without question and expect different outcomes. When you make the choice to express differently with love and not fear you change your behaviour and give your body a better chance at healing.
To express your grief try something new, if you normally keep it all in because you fear it may hurt more if you speak it, or its a burden to others ears, try a kinesiology session or counselling, sound healing, energy healing, guided meditations, drawing, art, writing, poetry, dance, give yourself the opportunity to move into the next phase of your life differently so you can experience newness.
4. Declare your experience as sacred and good
We can get nasty with ourselves if we feel something “negative”, I believe there is a purpose and reason to our experiences and it is to grow as spiritual beings, the greatest learning is through pain because we have to change it because its so uncomfortable and change is growth! See the gift wrapped in barbed wire, see how you have benefited and become a better person because of your experience.
5. Know how you want to feel
So you've been through a rough patch or still in it, it feels terrible, you're exhausted from the rollercoaster ride of emotions. Accepting how you feel now, how would you like to feel?
If its grief you feel, you may want to feel connection, if its sadness you may want to feel joy. Know that with all emotions you feel there is a flip side like a coin, know that when you feel sadness, joy is there underneath, all the beautiful emotions you know are all there, just like the sun doesn't stop shining, we see darkness because earth is blocking its brightness, your love and joy is the same, and all the heaviness is temporary and once moved like the earth around the sun, the light will shine again.
Remember that the love you perceive to be lost is still within you, and you can feel this for yourself and move more into unconditionally loving you and others.
I hope this helps calm your soul as you move through your own pain. Be gentle and kind to yourself, it takes time and there is beauty in the process if you're willing to see it.
If you are wanting support to let go and move forward, kinesiology is a powerful and effective way to transform your thoughts and emotions.
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