Can you be happy everyday? yes! but the secret is that its entirely up to you, you are the master of your own mind and life, no one else can do this for you! (not even your kinesiologist but I can help you get there) This is why I love kinesiology so much is that its all about bringing back your personal power and helping people have their own aha moments of clarity which help them have a more balanced body, mind and life, they are one in the same and cannot be dissected. This is why I believe people are drawn to kinesiology because its all about inner change to create outer change. I respect all my clients that come to see me because they are taking ownership over how they feel and that is so amazing!
1. Your mind is on a default mode of unhappiness but you can change it! Change your mind, change your life, but how?
We are unhappy when we want things to be different to the way they are.
We are designed to want different, this default mode is reinforced everyday, we are constantly bombarded with opportunities to compare ourselves with others, we compare what we have to what another has, we compare every single aspect of ourselves and our lives from our shoes to our food choices. We are taught to constantly want more and believe that who we are and what we have is not enough, but what is enough? what is the limit? how to be good enough and have enough? who are we trying to be enough for? what the heck is going on? no wonder we have trouble making decisions, no wonder we experience FOMO, no wonder we have a deep belief of never feeling worthy or valuable. We are gifted with an extra challenge because this is the first time in the history of the world that brings the forum of social media and constant advertisements to super charge this comparison disease which gives us opportunities everyday to create more misery and validation of the belief that we are not good enough.
Who are you living your life for? You? (I hope you said you!)
Do you want to be happy? Yes? No? I bet it’s a big enormous yes, then please continue reading…(chose your own adventure of course)
To be happy is to accept the moment exactly how it is
Happiness comes from acceptance and gratitude for how things are, how we are, what we have and want for ourselves. Please don't think that this means settling and being lazy without any drive to create your ideal life, it is actually the opposite. With this understanding we can create our lives from a genuine place that comes from peace of mind in this moment, knowing who we are and what we want regardless of others and what they want, the more we stay connected with ourselves and how we honestly feel and think, we can truly create a beautiful and unique experience without needing to measure up or meet someone else ideals and expectations. Doesn't that feel nice! Deep breath and relax! let your jaw loosen, your forehead unknot, your shoulder drop (yes we’re all a bit tense)
Your life is yours and you get to live it how you want to! Doing whats right for you has never felt so clear and liberating! FREEDOM!
How to change the default mode? it takes awareness, patience, and persistence. Changing a way of thinking requires challenging the thought pattern and re-directing to a new and upgraded one that supports you. The first step is to notice, be aware of how you feel in your body when your exposed to a situation that brings craving for something more, all you need to do is open Instagram or Facebook, take a look at all the beautiful things, the beautiful people that are presenting their ideal image to the world, check in with your body and notice how you feel, notice the sensations of craving or aversion, is this something I want for myself, if only I have that piece of jewellery, then I would be happy!
Notice if you have FOMO (fear of missing out) that my friend went to lunch with other friends without me and they look so happy! If only I had gone to lunch with them, then I would feel happy.
Break the cycle by acknowledging the body sensations and kindly and gently pause and prevent yourself from going into the thought process of ‘buying into’ the wanting for a different experience of life, see the images and words for what they are, snap shots in time that are someones experience, that is all.
2. You have an incredible gift, you are an incredible gift
Take a moment to realise how precious you are, how amazing it is that you are given life right here and now, you are breathing, you are awake and aware, it doesn't matter what kind of chair your sitting in, what type of computer or phone you are reading this on, what matters is that you take ownership of your precious life and consciously create your own happiness. I want you to be happy so badly, I have an intense sensation in my body writing this, my whole being wants your whole being to happy! this is why I do what I do.
I see the masterpiece of every person, I do what I do to help you see your own masterpiece. The secret is that you are an infinitely powerful being, you are valuable, you are worthy, you just may not be aware of that.
The secret to feeling like this is to take your power back. What do I mean by that? glad you asked… We give our power away everyday, in most moments, yes we are taught to do this by society and it comes in many forms.
We make other people, places, and situations the object of our discomfort.
Here it is, the big one! You are responsible for yourself, your life and how you feel, you cannot give this responsibility away without giving your power away.
Life happens and we make external events the reason why we feel the way we do. Example, you have an argument with your partner, they say something that you don’t like or agree with and you feel upset, you get this fresh source of validation to support this belief system that you're not enough, you immediately relate being upset with the words and actions of another, you become powerless over your emotions because the cause is external to you and until you resolve this and make this person change so you can be happy again. See how your power is completely gone?
The secret is to hold onto your power, knowing that you are responsible for your own feelings, no one can make you feel something, you can get triggered by external events but you don't need to let them run your life.
How to change this? Make the commitment to yourself to stay strong in your own power, knowing you are enough right now, whatever happens in your life is an experience, that is all, it doesn't need to an attack on your identity, something painful to be avoided at all costs, it doesn't need to be labelled, it is all experience and it is all an opportunity to learn and grow. If someone is behaving in a way that you don’t agree with, see that this person must be filled with difficult emotions to behave in such a way, everyone is behaving from the level of awareness that they're at, treat them the way you would like to be treated, with compassion and understanding of the truth.
Everyone is hurting in their own way, mostly people are unaware of why they do the things they do and don’t have the ability in that moment of pain to treat others with kindness and compassion, if they don’t treat themselves this way, how could they treat you this way?
People that treat themselves with kindness and compassion can automatically treat others in an equal way. This doesn't mean that you take peoples shit, you are much more effective in communicating your boundaries and how you want to be treated when you are in your own power and not from a place of hurt and mirroring the other persons pain with pain, the cycle gets broken when you have pain thrown at you and you respond with love. Don’t be hard on yourself, this takes time and practice to become the default setting, quite possibly a lifetime or multiple lifetimes! Just give it a go, your happiness depends on it.
Have you noticed that your internal world creates your external one?
A person with a happy mind, attitude and peaceful disposition will naturally experience these attributes in their external life, it is no coincidence, it is impossible to be clouded with the fog of misery when you are responsible for how you feel and treat all experience as just that, knowing that everything is constantly changing nothing is permanent, the only guarantee in life is that everything is changing and will change
With this realisation isn’t is much easier to be happy and enjoy life, we can’t control anything but our own way of thinking.
Have you noticed that people who see life as difficult and full of pain and suffering will always have a difficult life experience? Its so simple but true, your external life is a reflection of your internal life. This is why kinesiology works so effectively, when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change! our world is a manifestation of our perception.
Need help getting clear on your own magnificence and create the change you want? I can help! Email me at email@example.com
Have a beautiful day filled with created happiness!