Recovering from loss isn't clean and simple, its mostly a slow and uncomfortable process filled with tears, snot, outbursts and overwhelm, and just when you think its done, you feel it some more.
I believe that the emotions of loss, grief, fear, anger, sadness come in stages and are layers with each being removed we feel more free, moving closer to an open heart and the truth that we are the love we believe we have lost.
When we feel pain, our response is to close off to prevent any more uncomfortable feelings, and without knowing it we lock in the hurt.
We do this to avoid more hurt but this sense of protecting ourselves prolongs the healing process.
Our heart is always in the present moment.
Our heart doesn't have concerns for the past or future, its just wanting to give and receive love without barriers.
Our minds get stuck in the past, the memories, the thoughts of "before", we delve into the painful moments, the regret and our attachment to wishing the past was different so we can now feel something different.
So here are 5 ways to gently heal your heart
1. Be present
Your heart lives in the moment, when you connect with your heart, allow yourself to love YOU and meet your own needs for love, you can let go a little more and get back into the flow of life.
How do you love yourself? Good question, loving you is knowing your worth and that you're loveable just because you exist, it's accepting all you have done or not done, said or not said, drop judgement of self, be present with yourself, find pleasure in your own company, exploring your own wholeness, releasing the grip on needing anyone externally to be, do or say what you think you need to feel loveable.
2. Let it out & let go of expectations
All the emotions you feel, just allow them, be with them, without a fight or criticism, this is your bodies way of moving through, processing and releasing life experiences.
3. Express differently
As humans we have an amazing capacity to keep doing the same things over and over without question and expect different outcomes. When you make the choice to express differently with love and not fear you change your behaviour and give your body a better chance at healing.
To express your grief try something new, if you normally keep it all in because you fear it may hurt more if you speak it, or its a burden to others ears, try a kinesiology session or counselling, sound healing, energy healing, guided meditations, drawing, art, writing, poetry, dance, give yourself the opportunity to move into the next phase of your life differently so you can experience newness.
4. Declare your experience as sacred and good
We can get nasty with ourselves if we feel something “negative”, I believe there is a purpose and reason to our experiences and it is to grow as spiritual beings, the greatest learning is through pain because we have to change it because its so uncomfortable and change is growth! See the gift wrapped in barbed wire, see how you have benefited and become a better person because of your experience.
5. Know how you want to feel
So you've been through a rough patch or still in it, it feels terrible, you're exhausted from the rollercoaster ride of emotions. Accepting how you feel now, how would you like to feel?
If its grief you feel, you may want to feel connection, if its sadness you may want to feel joy. Know that with all emotions you feel there is a flip side like a coin, know that when you feel sadness, joy is there underneath, all the beautiful emotions you know are all there, just like the sun doesn't stop shining, we see darkness because earth is blocking its brightness, your love and joy is the same, and all the heaviness is temporary and once moved like the earth around the sun, the light will shine again.
Remember that the love you perceive to be lost is still within you, and you can feel this for yourself and move more into unconditionally loving you and others.
I hope this helps calm your soul as you move through your own pain. Be gentle and kind to yourself, it takes time and there is beauty in the process if you're willing to see it.
If you are wanting support to let go and move forward, kinesiology is a powerful and effective way to transform your thoughts and emotions.
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Don’t forget the sun is always shining
Last Sunday I presented at the Exploring your Passion and Purpose workshop with my mentor and friend, Susan Kennedy, along with an incredible group of women that I admire who share my passion to help people heal.
The day was all about connecting with your passion as the path to exploring your purpose. I believe that connecting with and making peace with your inner child is a valuable part of living with purpose & joy so I took the group through a journey to connect with their inner child (meditation link below)
When we are born we are connected with spirit and are in full expression of our soul. We laugh, we cry, we get angry, we feel sad, we just feel what we feel with no judgement.
As we grow we adapt to our environment and change our behaviour to fit in, to be accepted and loved. We meet others expectations of us so we can feel loved and valued and in the process we lose the beautiful free expression of our soul.
As requested on Sunday I have recorded the inner child journey that I presented so that you can all benefit from embracing this often lost or ignored part pf ourselves that is carrying the hurt of childhood.
By connecting with and taking responsibility for loving and caring this part of ourselves we become more free in our expression with ourselves and others.
If you feel that there is more healing to do you may benefit from a kinesiology session to allow your body wisdom to reveal what past pains can be shifted to love yourself more.
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What do I mean by juicy energy? You know; it's your mojo baby, your spark, light, power, passion, confident, sense of knowing. I'm sure you've met someone and felt amazing just being with them, their energy is a delight to be around and they aren't even doing or saying anything in particular, you just feel their vibe.
You know when your energy is juicy because its with you, its in the moment, its you feeling love, trust, gratitude, abundant, sexy and powerful and you know when your energy has shrivelled, cause you feel overwhelmed, anxious, unsure, stuck and worried.
You let your juice get sucked dry when you allow people, places, events or situations to have your energy and take greater importance than your own. Why would you do that? because you may not feel completely loved or worthy, you may be trying to please or fix to feel loved and appreciated, you may be trying to control a person or situation to get the outcome you want to avoid feeling rejected and keep your sense of safety and support.
How to know if you're letting your juice run dry
It all boils down to one thing... You simply can't own your power unless you know and believe you are powerful
The irony is you need your power the most when shit goes bad, and that's when you give it away! You kinda pop your own balloon when you most need to rise above
If you don't believe you have any power or are powerless then it points to a lack of self worth, you give your power away unknowingly because you believe that others are more than you are. More what?
You may have the perception that others are better, smarter, thinner, fitter, sexier, successful and so on (i'm sure you've got your own list!)
And all that thinking leaves you feeling about as small as a sultana when you could be a big juicy grape!
The great news is that you have the power over your power! You get to decide and you control it, so its time to let go of controlling everything around you hoping that that will help you feel safe and loved (you know it doesn't really work)
Big SIGH! It's ok, here is something that can help
This is a technique I use to keep myself feeling juicy when life feels overwhelming;
I do this whenever I am feeling anxious or worried because those feelings are a sign to me that I'm giving my power away and I need to bring it back
I hope this helps you all feel juicy!
Contact me if you need some help understanding why you may be giving your power away and how to stop the pattern happening so that you can live a juicy sparkly life!
I help people connect with their own wisdom through kinesiology and mind body medicine. I believe we all have the answers within, the gold is knowing how to access them!
These days I trust myself but I haven't always been this confident in myself.
I've discovered that your intuition is the path to feeling free in your life
After a soul shattering break up a couple of years ago I knew I had to cut the bull shit and take a good look at myself! I was getting into situations that I knew weren't right for me but hoping for the best (but wasn't willing to be honest with myself), the signs were there but I ignored them.
Knowing something isn't right and hoping for the best is the yuckiest feeling ever. Ignorance is rarely bliss!
I have a strong desire for you to feel as liberated as I do because I know how incredible it feels! I really feel like its the only way.
I know you have a strong sense of knowing and I know that only you have the power to take this skill and build it. Every client I meet with has this within them, they just don't always trust it.
We are no different, I have just made it my mission to be honest with myself about all things and take wise action that is what's right for me and not led by anyone else.
Because the pain of ignoring my guidance was worse than the pain that change may bring
When I was in my self created pit of misery, self doubt and shame, I turned to a trusted mentor & intuitive healer, Susan Kennedy.
At the time Susan had just launched her online Psychic Awakening program and I signed up straight away!
Why did I do the program? Because I needed to connect within, once and for all trusting in my guidance to prevent getting myself into situations that felt yuck and know how to get out of problematic situations by seeing and learning the lesson so I don't have to repeat it.
We only really ignore our intuition because it means we may have to be courageous and make change
I am thrilled because I am now living and breathing whats right for me. Since doing this program my life has changed in BIG but amazing ways. I quit my corporate job and took my business full time, I have created beautiful relationships that I didn't even know were possible and I now get to work along side incredible healers like Susan, & not just look up to them for insight (big smile on my face)
Yep i'm pretty chuffed with myself for doing what's right for me
I couldn't be happier because I know this program has been incredibly valuable to me and is a resource you can follow at your own pace and gain unlimited access to.
The Psychic Awakening program is designed to unlock whats already within, helping you:
As an affiliate of Susan's I do gain income from helping share her programs and I do it because I 100% believe in it, I've been through it and know that this is the PERFECT resource as an extension of my kinesiology sessions.
If you're ready to delve into your own truth and trust your path, click below to check out Susan's program.
There are TWO options you can choose
1. The Psychic Awakening Program with online access (Normally $197, your investment is $150)
2. The Psychic Awakening Program online PLUS three, one hour calls with Susan via Skype (Normally $497, your investment is $457, a one hour call with Susan is normally $125 so this is incredible value)
Click here and use the code PSYCHIC as you check out, to receive your discount on either option.
How do we be our kind, caring and sensitive selves while staying in our power and not taking on others stuff as our own?
1. Understand why you do what you do
Being a kinesiologist, I have a deep motivation to serve and support myself and others to feel amazing and live life to the fullest.
I believe many of you reading this have a core motivation to help that is pure but sometimes our pure motivation can be clouded with wanting to fix, please, be responsible for others etc. This is where it gets tricky because you now have an expectation.
Ask yourself if you're helping without expectation or if you're needing/wanting something in return either to have the helping or fixing reciprocated, to feel loved, be acknowledged, validated, valued, accepted, to be looked after, to feel safe etc.
It's a path of anxiety trying to get anything from anyone in a sustainable way unless you're first giving it to yourself. Thats the old saying "fill your cup first"
2. What's there to fix?
Here's the thing with being self aware and always being committed to your own learning and growth... Everyone is on a different path and yes we see the potential in them but its not our job to change them, it's their choice.
Recently I had a four hour hypnotherapy session where I went in between lives and connected with myself a soul. My belief is that we choose our lives before we come based on what we need to learn and we are all on a unique path.
Supporting and fixing are very different! I see it as power vs force or peace vs drama. This is a great little clip to explain the drama cycle and how to step out of it
If someone asks for your help then its your choice if it feels right to help them.
If you decide someone has a problem that needs fixing and take it upon yourself to change them then you're getting into difficult waters. This attitude is putting out the message that something is wrong with the person and they aren't enough as they are, are not capable in some way and their resistance to change may boost from this disempowering energy.
3. Know how you feel so you know when your energy is yours and when its not
So many of my clients get confused with how they actually feel because they are so used to feeling everyone else feelings as a way to understand their environment and the people in it.
A question I ask myself when i'm feeling different to how I usually feel is "is this mine?" and often it won't be if you're energy has changed going into a new situation.
To know the answer, you need to connect with your own sense of what is yes and what is no. I feel this as sensations in my body, others get the word in their mind, or a feeling of expansion or contraction.
To know whats yours and what not its important to know how you feel as a baseline in your day. You may be feeling wonderful after a morning walk and as soon as you get to work you may feel your energy plummet.
This is an indication that you're being affected by your environment. You have some options here...
If the energy you're feeling is not yours then you can acknowledge this and thank your body for letting you know, this acknowledgment may be enough to shift the energy, if not you can visualise the energy leaving your field and you being fortified with your own energy, this may look like a field of colour, light or symbol.
If the energy is yours then there is something deeper happening which needs your attention for example you may be out of alignment with your work but pretending that it's what you need for now. This is a good time to go see your kinesiologist to delve deeper!
4. Create and maintain your boundaries to prevent yourself from giving away your power and fall into old patterns
Many of us have been brought up to feel our wants and needs aren't as important as others and therefore disregard our own needs to meet what others expect.
The truth is we are all entitled to live our lives on our terms and go for what we want! Cause if your not living your life for you then who are you living for? and why? why is it better to live for someone else?
To set your boundaries you must know what they are! Such as knowing how you want to be treated in your relationships and if someone treats you with disrespect, you can stand your ground.
Know what it takes for you to have healthy boundaries
Q. I can create healthy boundaries to support my (health/wellbeing/relationships/finances) by ____________________________________________.
Q. If I had these boundaries in place, how would my life be different? ____________________________________.
Q. If I had these boundaries in place how differently would I feel? ________________________________________.
The hard part about setting boundaries is respecting them by committing to them!
For example you may set a boundary to not call your ex partner because its in your best interest and you know your life will be more in alignment if you don't contact them. The challenge is keeping that commitment with yourself!
5. Know yourself so your energy is centred and grounded
When there is searching for validation outside ourselves there is a tendency to get caught up in whatever is going on, buying into others opinions as our own and being led by others.
Know what you love and be confident in expressing your love. If you're into crystals, yoga and meditation and you have a friend that thinks its all stupid, thats cool, let them think its stupid, they don't have to feel the same as you and you don't need to change your opinion to suit them.
The contrast of peoples interests and beliefs makes the world an interesting place to live!
Having a daily meditation practice can help support yourself on all levels to feel centered and grounded. Try starting the day with a quick five minutes breathing and feeling your body, noticing how you feel and what mood you're in before you step out into your day.
If you feel the need you can clear your energy field simply. When having a shower you can imagine all energy thats not yours (if any) washing way. If you're outside you can stand bare foot and visualise any energy thats not yours going into the ground and being filled from above by golden light.
Being sensitive is a strength, but to make the strength work for you its important to know yourself, know how you feel, know your boundaries and know why you do what you do!
The start of the year is a ripe time to clear physical, emotional and mental clutter, its all energy, it's all "stuckness"
It's time to clear out the old to bring in the new!
letting go, clearing and realigning is a holistic process. Everything is energy, all we are doing is clearing energy in different forms.
The old emotions, the old thought patterns, the bits and pieces of sentimental value you've held onto from past relationships that still trigger old emotional wounds
Some signs you may need to do some clearing
Why we hold on to old stuff that is still zapping our energy without us even knowing!
How to clear your energy
This one is easy! Clear out the stuff that you don't need anymore, chuck it out, donate it, sell it, burn it, whatever feels final to you
Mental and Emotional decluttering
BREATHE IN THE NEW ENERGY, BREATHE IN THE LIGHT AND LOVE TO MOVE FORWARD WITH EASE!
It took me a bit to get going this year and I don't think it was just me feeling this way. I didnt do my intention setting until recently and realised how important it is and how different I feel after taking the time to do it!
So I'm officially making today the 9th Jan the first day of my year! HAPPY NEW YEAR
I gave new year goal setting a boot a while ago. I found that I felt anxious, watching time pass and watching my goal attanment slip away from me.
I only set one "goal" for 2016 and I didnt do it and I don't even feel bad about it! (it was to doa yoga head stand, it looks cool).
2016 saw me setting intentions instead leading me to have the most fulfiling year of my life in many ways. Why? because goals are external and based on attachment, intentions are states of being and aligned with spirit so you just cant go wrong!
Life loves soulful people
So I want to help you identify your intentions for 2017 so you can have a fulfilling year of positive change and feel good moments! You may or may not have your intentions set, you may know what you need and just need help integrating it or you may have no bloody idea! Either way it's awesome and i'm here to help.
Let make 2017 our most soulful year yet!
During the session we will make your intentions clear, send them out for the universe to acknowledge! and provide you with a personalised liquid crystal which will help to anchor and integrate your intentions!
1hr session plus liquid crystal for $100 (value $120)
Contact Karlie to book your session at Wholistic Health Group, 165 Darby St
Yeah I may do a head stand one day but it has nothing to do with life purpose so i'm happy watching others do it and be super impressed!
Its my birthday week! Woo Hoo party time! I am deliberately honouring myself and loving it (hell yeah i’m special!). I’m having a massage, splurged on a fresh supply of my favourite skin care products and organised my own party so I get to hang out with all my favourite people (and get cake that I didn’t buy). I’ve reflected over the past year and given myself a big congratulations for having so much courage in creating my reality that I love. It feels SO GOOD!
So why we don’t honour ourselves everyday and allow ourselves to receive so much good stuff when we need it to stay happy and healthy?
Why do we feel more ok to receive on our birthday as if its our one chance a year to soak up the love without hesitation or feeling uncomfortable (maybe some people still get a bit squirmy when receiving, especially that dreaded happy birthday song and exposing our age!).
Here it goes…
Our willingness and ability to receive is directly related to our self worth
The good part is, if you are able to allow the good stuff to come to you on your birthday without questioning whether you deserve it or questioning why people are being so kind, then you are capable of allowing the goodness everyday which has the ability to transform your life!
The ability to receive is our ability to accept and allow, if we block our ability to receive we get into trouble because we cut off our ability to be nurtured which put us off balance.
The problem with receiving…
You are so selfish! Who! me? No I'm not!
We can easily identify receiving with being selfish, to avoid being selfish we allow ourselves to give give give and not receive in balance.
Nature is balance, when we block receiving we block the natural flow of the universe.
We got taught early on that giving is good (well done scratch and sniff sticker) and receiving is not as good (and if you did receive, you better be nice and return the favour! everyone likes a nice person)
Lurking underneath our cool and calm exterior may be these blocks that are stopping us from enjoying life to the fullest
Blocking our ability to receive has some pretty detrimental effects
Not only does this block reinforce our feeling of not being worthy, it may manifest in our physical body as
Energetically blocking nurturing puts a wall up and can prevent meaningful connection with ourselves and others
This year on my birthday and everyday I allow myself to bathe in the love and care for myself and from others. The wall is down and i’m energetically ready to receive! I haven’t always felt this way, I would say it’s the first year that i’ve been 100% willing to receive. Why? because I know my motivation for receiving is pure, it comes from knowing that i’m good enough and worthy of it, and without it I feel unwell and off balance so it is my duty to myself to allow.
In a kinesiology session we can further understand why you may not give and receive freely and openly and remove the blocks to help free you from lack of feeling nurtured. We are all special and are worthy of feeling internal comfort, we just may have got a bit lost along the way.
I promise you that you are worthy! The catch is that only you have the ability to honour yourself in everyday, it’s all up to you! but seriously how great is that! you get to do it for you and that means its 100% possible, you get to create a wonderful and meaningful life for you.
Email me to find out how kinesiology can help you, firstname.lastname@example.org
I quit an awesome job, moved out of the perfect house, and ended a relationship with someone I care deeply about.
Because I followed my intuition
A while ago I made a commitment to listen to and follow my intuition, I believe this commitment is the biggest we can ever make, it’s like marrying ourselves! We’re going to be with ourselves this whole lifetime so we may as well fully accept and enjoy our own wisdom
Not so long ago I was feeling a bit stuck, I wasn't entirely happy or at peace even though on the surface it looked like the perfect life, great job, great house, great friends, great social life, but even with all this greatness going on I still felt off, something wasn’t right and only I had the answers to this uneasy feeling stirring inside me.
It's important to remember that your relationship with yourself is the most important one you will ever have and must be honoured above all
When you connect to your intuition, something magical happens, you get the answers you're seeking to move from feeling uneasy and stuck to feel like your moving forward in life
I believe there are a few main reasons why a lot of people don't follow their intuition
Sometimes the changes you need to make aren’t what you think you want and that feels crap for a while
If you don’t change anything you will keep feeling the way you've been feeling.
The changes you are guided to make may be hard, it may feel uncomfortable, challenging, you may lose sleep, you may lose relationships, you may hurt people’s feelings, it may bring up all your insecurities and old grief but your soul will never guide you to change anything you're not ready for or anything that isn’t for your highest good.
How to connect?
The more you distract yourself with the external world, the more you prolong the agony of not following your spirit
I have found the easiest way to connect and begin trusting yourself is by getting a yes/no sensation in your body, this helps you get used to your body wisdom and gets you to a point where you can meditate on questions and get a yes or no response for whats in your best interest.
Here’s how to get started on this journey
1. Listen to the body wisdom meditation, it may takes many listens to get an obvious yes and no response in your body. Sometimes you will get a strong yes sensation and a weaker sensation for no or vice versa. Trust it!
2. Once you have the felt sense of yes and no, you can connect in and ask yourself questions you want guidance on that will give a yes/no response
Start using yes/no simply, ask questions in your daily life such as “is this breakfast cereal going to nourish me”, “Should I have a coffee”, “Is it in my best interest to walk to work today” etc
Play with it! Your body will be so pleased once you go inward and start trusting, your life will better forever!
Ultimately you can ask yourself any question, it’s your spirit you're connecting to, so asking if a choice you are considering is for your highest good is perfect wording.
“Is (insert choice/question) in my best interest?”
“Is (insert choice/question) for my highest good?”
3. Don’t get discouraged if you go against your guidance, you're only human and sometimes you wont get the response you want e.g. “Is eating this gelato in my best interest?”
If you feel there is something in the way of you connecting, I would recommend having a kinesiology session to help you get clear with your guidance. I was introduced to this method by my kinesiologist some years ago and its been incredibly valuable in my life.
Email Karlie to make a booking email@example.com
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