Feel the fear and do it anyway? I wholeheartedly believe that fear can be overcome, not necessarily by pushing through it, avoiding it or pretending its not there, but by surrendering to it.
Why would we want to surrender to fear? Wouldn't it mean we feel more fear? Interestingly, no!
When we surrender to fear we allow it to be, when we do this, were no longer suppressing or shoving it away, were just ok to be with it. Feeling it doesn't mean it lasts forever, just moments or minutes and then we feel lighter.
When we resist what we feel, we push down our emotions into our body and over time this energy creates pressure, taking away from our life-force energy and colouring the way we see life.
The energy of unprocessed emotions we've got bottled up inside determines how we perceive the world, a person full of fear will see an unsafe and fearful world, a person full of anger will see a world with judgement and full of conflict.
When were walking around with the pressure of all our suppressed emotions within us, it doesn't take much for the emotions to spill out! Then we begin to blame other people for how we feel and project our own stuff onto others.
We feel emotions in our body, fear can create a dry mouth, trembling body, gut pain or spasms, sore lower back, weak muscles, light headedness, racing heart, sick feelings, all these sensations are just that, sensations.
We wrongly think that people or situations are the cause of our emotions however this is simply not possible! we are the source of our emotions, external events are merely the catalyst for us to experience whats already going on inside us on some level.
The source of fear is our own accumulated energy - David R Hawkins
Since we are the source of ALL our emotions, we have the opportunity to change how we feel, not by distracting or chasing for a positive thought or experience but by feeling what were experiencing.
Imagine a pipe thats clogged, the water can't move past and begins to build up, the pressure accumulates, the water will eventually spurt through wether we choose to remove whats clogging the pipe or the pressure becomes so great that the water breaks though on its own. The pressure in the pipe are our suppressed emotions, all the feelings that we haven't let ourselves feel or express or were taught are not ok or acceptable.
We can choose to clean our own pipes or we can consciously or unconsciously spray our emotional build up onto people around us. Which do you think would be more effective for you and your relationships?
Theres no need to fear the fear when you're the owner of it! there is a limited amount of energy to release, If you let yourself feel without resisting it will pass, you won't be stuck in the sensations forever!
So how do you surrender to the pressure and clean the pipes?
Its important to know that just because you do this process once with fearful feelings in your body that you'll never feel fear again, its likely that theres a collection of fear to let go of and each situation that triggers you is an opportunity to let go some more!
If you need some support to connect with your body and release negative emotions that are holding you back, you can book your session with me online
What do I mean by lush energy? You know; it's your mojo baby, your spark, light, power, passion, confidence, sense of knowing. I'm sure you've met someone and felt amazing just being with them, their energy is a delight to be around and they aren't even doing or saying anything in particular, you just feel their vibe.
You know when your energy is lush because its with you, its in the moment, its you feeling love, trust, gratitude, abundant, sexy and powerful and you know when your energy has shrivelled when you feel overwhelmed, anxious, unsure, stuck and worried.
You let your energy deplete when you allow people, places, events or situations to have your energy and take greater importance than your own. Why would you do that? because you may not feel completely loved or worthy, you may be trying to please or fix to feel loved and appreciated, you may be trying to control a person or situation to get the outcome you want to avoid feeling rejected and keep your sense of safety and support.
How to know if you're letting your energy deplete
It all boils down to one thing... You simply can't own your power unless you know and believe you are powerful
The irony is you need your power the most when shit goes bad, whens theres lots of change and unpredictability and that's when you give it away! You kinda pop your own balloon when you most need to rise above
If you don't believe you have any power or are powerless then it points to a lack of self worth and self responsibility, you may be giving your power away by being in victim mode and don't believe in yourself or your ability to take charge of your life.
The great news is that you have the power over your power! You get to decide and you control it, so its time to let go of controlling everything around you hoping that that will help you feel safe and loved (you know it doesn't really work)
Big SIGH! It's ok, here is something that can help
This is a technique I use to keep myself feeling lush when life feels overwhelming;
I do this whenever I am feeling anxious or worried because those feelings are a sign to me that I'm giving my power away and I need to bring it back
I hope this helps you all feel lush!
Contact me if you need some help understanding why you may be giving your power away and how to stop the pattern happening so that you can live a lush life!
Its normal to feel a bit stagnant at the start of the year, it feels like a bit of a limbo period where one door is closed and the other hasn't been opened yet. To help you open your door to 2019 Ive created some journal prompts to get you into the flow.
Closing the door to 2018
What did you learn about yourself?
What was your greatest challenge and the lesson that helped you grow?
What did you love most about 2018?
What wasn't working that you let go of? how did it feel?
What advice would you give yourself for the future knowing what you know?
Opening the door to 2019
How do you want to strengthen your relationship with yourself?
In what ways may you be holding back? and what do you want to express?
What does your soul want to receive and experience?
What relationship do you want to have with money?
How would you describe the energy of 2019 you want to step into with three or more words?
Have a go at answering the journal prompts in your own time and way, let the answers just come without to much analysis and you may be surprised at what you have waiting to be expressed.
Ive attached a short 3 min meditation for you to step into your year feeling connected to your true self and feel clear about your path, click here to listen.
If you're needing more support to feel connected and get your year off to a great start I'm back at clinic this week and have sessions available
You can book here
I help people love themselves, regardless of their past painful experiences so they can experience how it feels to be free and loving life!
So why bother loving yourself?
Because when you do, you become a magnet to all good things, you let go of needing to control and relax into yourself, you’re body, mind and spirit feels at home within you because it’s a beautiful and warm place to be, it’s comfortable and wonderful being you!
When you feel this way within yourself, you're free to experience life and create because you want to not because you feel you have to do or be anything.
Loving yourself is your natural state
As I went for a morning walk today I had an aha moment! I enjoyed the whole morning in loving conversation with myself (in my head) and got some awesome info out it. I had the realisation I am kind, loving and supportive to myself most of the time!
I took a big sigh and had a tear, my heart just felt like it was hugging me, and I thought f*ck i’ve hit the self love jackpot!
Loving myself (most of the time) has been a ride, it’s taken years but its the greatest accomplishment of my life.
So how do you know when you're loving the sh*t our of yourself for real…
What blocks self love?
Your power to love your own being resides in your heart, it’s only from the heart that you can feel love.
Your heart’s purpose is to feel, your heart does not know what the past or future is.
All we have to do is think about an emotionally painful situation we've experienced and our heart feels what we went through at the time like its happening right now. All the things that have been said or unsaid to us piles up and tips the scale over to the b*itch end!
When this pain is still with us, it stops us experiencing the life we want mostly without us even being aware, the sticky pain energetically blocks our ability to attract and experience love.
I believe that our painful experiences creates protection around our gentle hearts to feel ok in this world. It is my purpose to support you in uncovering all that shuts your precious heart away.
How I support you to love freely
It’s awesome let me tell you! Because your mind and body want to be in harmony and is doing its best to keep you balanced, I tap into your body wisdom using muscle testing to ask your body what is blocking you from feeling how you want to feel.
Your body knows whats really going on it keeps track of all of your experiences and emotions, it holds all the information about what is tipping you off balance, in your body, mind and emotions.
When we gain the understanding of what your heart blocks are, I have many techniques to restore balance and provide you with tools to take with you after the session to support your energy.
My wish is that you feel free to be you & full of love!
To book your session, use this link to find the time that works for you. I look forward to meeting with you and supporting your heart healing journey
When I ask new clients if they've had a kinesiology session before they often reply “Yes a long time ago, I felt better but I didn't really know what was going on”
So what “goes on” in a kinesiology session
If you see a kinesiologist they will use muscle testing (if no muscle testing is used, its not kinesiology).
Muscle testing is a technique where a light pressure is applied to your arm (though any muscle can be tested) and your arm will either stay strong or move under the pressure
Kinesiologists use an indicator muscle to get information about whats going on (see pic below where I'm using the indicator muscle on Jess)
The body will give accurate information via the nervous system to understand the core issue is and how to resolve it. Our conscious minds tend to go around in circles trying to "figure out" what's going on within us and what the solution is.
If the muscles in the arm are in homeostasis (aka working fine, the brain and body are communicating with no problem) the arm will hold up.
There are many schools of kinesiology and varying ways of working with muscle testing. This means that if you see more than one kinesiologist they may do things differently. My intention is that you know how I work so you can decide if this way is for you!
Here's an example of what goes on in a kinesiology session (not a real client or session): Sam is having trouble focusing at work and cant get anything done and is getting super anxious by the day.
Sam thinks she just needs to stop getting distracted & keep her attention on her work which is true yet she finds this difficult, almost impossible! and is in the pattern of being distracted, becoming more and more anxious, losing trust in herself and her ability to "do life".
After we've talked about why Sam has come for a session, she gets on the massage table face up. I ask Sam’s body via the muscle testing what is relevant to the issue and how she wants to feel (she wants to feel focused at work)
I ask the body if this issue is related to an emotional state, a structural issue with the body, a biochemical issue, psychological issue (how she’s thinking and what she believes) or energetic issue with the energy body.
We discover that the priority aspect to work on is an emotional state e.g. fear. I talk to Sam about how fear may be related to her not focusing at work.
Through our discussion and accessing information through muscle testing we uncover that Sam had a car accident 6 months ago and since then has trouble focusing on anything! the accident was a shock and ever since she's felt like she's always on alert. She didn't notice it so much at home or when socialising because she didn't have so much pressure to get stuff done. Sam thought it was because she's lost interest in her job.
With this new awareness we can ask the body what it needs to relax again and release the shock.
Sam’s goal of “Its easy to focus at work” becomes her reality because her body, mind and spirit are relaxed and no longer in fear.
Something may shock Sam again but now she has the awareness of how she feels fear in her body and know what its about, this helps Sam to feel empowered to know what her body’s messages are!
This is simply one example but the point is that kinesiology can help you get to what really needs to change within you which is hard to get to with usual thinking and talking about it.
Through my work I have found that all sessions have an importance on an emotion that needs to be connected with.
We aren't always great at expressing our emotions that come from our experiences. We don't fully process what happens in our lives on all levels and therefore our past stuff is often locked in our system & have an impact on our life
Many of us have trouble with expressing ourselves with other people and feel uncomfortable with emotions.
All emotions are valid. There are no right or wrong, good or bad emotions, they are just emotions (energy).
We stuff away our emotions only to find they get triggered again later by a different person, event, or situation & get in the way of having great relationships and new life experiences.
Imagine if you were ok to express and feel whatever is going on for you without pushing it away…
Kinesiology is a process of empowering you to understand your inner world, to be ok with whatever you feel, be resilient in your life knowing you can get through anything, external situations don't have to change how you feel about yourself on a deeper level.
So what goes on in a kinesiology session? connecting you with you! and feeling at peace within yourself so that you can enjoy your life more, have more fulfilling relationships and begin creating what you want rather than experiencing the same stuff over and over!
Kinesiology helps with any stress you're experiencing, in any aspect of your life.
Some techniques I use to restore balance (there are loads!):
If we determine that your body needs extra support, I will refer you to suitable practitioners such as a GP, herbalist, nutritional support, acupuncture, Bowen therapy, etc.
Kinesiology works brilliantly along side other modalities to support you on all levels so you can feel how you want to feel.
My wish is that Kinesiology is not a confusing modality, that you know what to expect and whats going on through your session.
I am committed to making your session empowering for you, to guide you to understand your body mind and spirit so that you can see life as a wonderful adventure rather than a string of stressful events!
If you're ready to connect with you, book your session via the link here.
I faked it, I faked life, I faked me. Why? because I didn't know any better, I didn't know another way until I discovered it for myself.
I did my best to be the image of the person who was loveable and acceptable (aka the socially accepted as attractive woman, not too sexy, not too boring, not too loud, not too quiet, not too opinionated yet confident, mixed with 100% people pleaser. That’s what everyone likes right?)
To top off it off, I was working as a food scientist in a lab, flavouring food with chemicals to trick people into thinking they were eating the real thing. I created fake garbage food and I felt like garbage.
The day I found myself napping in my car at lunch time because I felt so sick was the day I decided I couldn't do it anymore, something clicked, I heard my soul speak telling me, I had to make a change.
I quit the job, I followed my intuition and it opened to me, I finally got it, I could do what my heart desired! It was my choice… period.
Why do we pretend? why do we be who we think we should be rather than who we want to be?
I believe its because we want to be loved, since the moment were born, we need it, we must have it to survive, we will do anything to get it and we think we need to be a certain way to get it.
When we change who we are to try and get love, were ironically creating layers of disconnection to the love within for ourselves.
So I faked it and then I broke it, all those damn layers of disconnection to the real me inside, some layers hard and stubborn, some layers fine and brittle.
Don’t get me wrong, I didn't shift my thoughts, emotions and beliefs overnight, it took me YEARS to fully love and accept who I am regardless. I kept coming back to what was loving to me, I realised that I couldn’t connect with people if they were being fake & I couldn’t expect them to feel connection to me or to feel connection to myself!
I’m my number 1 fan now but I still have moments of doubt, sabotage, fear, shame, discontentment but the difference is I know that its not who I am, its just how I temporarily feel about me.
To know your worth and feel it more often than not takes determination, skill and commitment.
Three ways to let go of who you think you should be and embrace who you are:
I believe that you have the power to live the most incredible life possible. I know that my experience and skills allow me to help others break through their own barriers to loving themselves, following their intuition and embracing change.
I’ve seen it, every week I see the change that happens when you connect with your soul and whats true for you!
Faking is hard work! its exhausting! being you & following your soul gives you energy, it lightens you.
Lighten up with a kinesiology session!
Book with me here
Hope to see you in person soon!
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Do you find it a little harder to feel optimistic, motivated and inspired in winter?
Its the time of year where we naturally go inward both physically by wanting to stay home more and inward mentally and emotionally as we slow down, and notice our emotional health more that other times.
Less distraction = slowing down = increased connection to ourselves
So how do make winter work for us and enjoy this time rather than wish it away?
In TCM (traditional Chinese Medicine) winter is associated with our kidney and bladder Qi & the water element. With strong kidney and bladder Qi we harness our intuition in winter and joyfully connect within, if our Qi is lowered we have a tendency to the opposite where fear and concern rule and we can find ourselves battling our unhealthy thought patterns, feeling anxious and doubt ourselves more than any other time.
Physically we tend to have more water symptoms appear in winter, such as ear problems (tinnitus, infections, dull hearing), issues with the teeth and bones, adrenal fatigue, foggy thinking, weak lower back and knees, frequent urination especially during night, arthritic pain, weakened immunity, vanilla dryness and lowered libido for men and women.
So how to we nurture our kidney and bladder Qi? Here are some tips:
I hope these tips help you stay healthy and well in body, mind and spirit this winter
If you need more support to help you enjoy your connection to yourself during the winter months, you can book you kinesiology session online
If you’re anything like me it can feel easier and more natural to be the cheerleader for everyone else, telling them the truth as you see it, that they are brilliant and wise and can go for what they want.
Why is it so much easier to believe in others and see their light than it is for ourselves?
I believe it has to do with our perception
We all have our stuff, our collected experiences, beliefs and suppressed emotions
We get stuck in our own stuff and too close to see the truth of who we really are
When you clear the stuff that’s clouding your vision of you, the cloud of the past, the beliefs the old thoughts lift and you begin to see your own beauty, the beauty that others see in you.
I love this art work by Tams at Soul Stories. I stumbled across her work at a recent festival and resonated with this image in particular. Because we are the source of light
Keep shining beautiful one
The last two weeks has been a love bomb thats blown up in my face, I didn't see it coming, I thought I was loving myself, I felt loving toward myself, I always look after myself, I rarely turn against myself with punishing thoughts and actions, I honour my needs and wants but deep down I’ve always felt I was missing an important part...
I was loving but not embodying love, not true divine love, my love came with limitations and conditions especially toward myself
The first love bomb came from Reiki Master training the weekend before last where we stared some truths in the face, the fact that we are all living under the illusion that we are separate from the divine and each other which drives fear, and coming back to the truth of who we really are LOVE.
We dug out all of our limiting beliefs that create separation and connected with the abundance that is woven through all things.
“We don’t create abundance. Abundance is always present. We create limitations” - Arnold Patent
To work with Reiki energy you have to get out of your own way, what does that mean? Step out of false limitations, step into light and love where all is healed because there is no disconnect from the truth.
So I stepped out of my own way, out of doubt, worry, illusion, I stepped into a sense of freedom I was starting to get a real taste for and I liked it! I began to feel in the flow.
A sign that you're really loving is a sense of connectedness with synchronicities being part of every day.
The next love bomb hit even harder, I travelled to Melbourne to attend the Seven Sisters Festival which is a three day women's wellness festival which attracts thousands of women every year (check it out here).
I thought the festival would be a bit of fun! I was kinda wrong! It was a mix of great pleasure and pain, I was challenged in ways i’ve never been before, I was invited to actually embody love, for real this time, not just in my head but my whole self, it hurt bad!
I attended a string of workshops all about trauma, suppressed emotions and fully expressing who we are and what we feel. We laughed, cried, danced, felt our pain and our pleasure, all witnessing each other and sharing in our common wounds.
Its one thing to release your pain on your own, or with someone you know and trust but its a new level of vulnerability expressing yourself openly with women you've just met.
To embody love, the divine feminine, our true selves, whatever you want to call it, we have to love ourselves unconditionally from the inside out, witness ourselves with compassion of the divine mother, all of our parts, all of our shame, guilt, fear, anger, grief, as well a our empathy, love, forgiveness, hope, nurturing, and thoughtfulness.
Embodying love isn't all glitter, smiles & pretty dresses, its raw, uncomfortable and dirty, its accepting all the darkness as much as the light, it’s harmony
Were taught from a young age that whats loveable and acceptable is nice, pretty and sweet. But thats a lie.
One exercise that helped me was looking with the eyes of the goddess, we went into a deep meditation where we saw ourselves as the Goddess and opened our eyes to view the women around us as the goddess & be seen as the goddess.
When we are seeing as the Goddess, we see beauty in all things, we lose judgement & expectations of ourselves and others, we connect authentically because we are not connecting from our wounds, we are connecting from our hearts.
So how do we embody love?
Here's what has helped me:
Embodying self love is a journey we all share if we know it consciously or not. If you need some support to uncover whats holding you back from loving, kinesiology is a wonderful way to connect with the blocks and clear them.
If your'e ready to connect inward you can book a session with me online
Recovering from loss isn't clean and simple, its mostly a slow and uncomfortable process filled with tears, snot, outbursts and overwhelm, and just when you think its done, you feel it some more.
I believe that the emotions of loss, grief, fear, anger, sadness come in stages and are layers with each being removed we feel more free, moving closer to an open heart and the truth that we are the love we believe we have lost.
When we feel pain, our response is to close off to prevent any more uncomfortable feelings, and without knowing it we lock in the hurt.
We do this to avoid more hurt but this sense of protecting ourselves prolongs the healing process.
Our heart is always in the present moment.
Our heart doesn't have concerns for the past or future, its just wanting to give and receive love without barriers.
Our minds get stuck in the past, the memories, the thoughts of "before", we delve into the painful moments, the regret and our attachment to wishing the past was different so we can now feel something different.
So here are 5 ways to gently heal your heart
1. Be present
Your heart lives in the moment, when you connect with your heart, allow yourself to love YOU and meet your own needs for love, you can let go a little more and get back into the flow of life.
How do you love yourself? Good question, loving you is knowing your worth and that you're loveable just because you exist, it's accepting all you have done or not done, said or not said, drop judgement of self, be present with yourself, find pleasure in your own company, exploring your own wholeness, releasing the grip on needing anyone externally to be, do or say what you think you need to feel loveable.
2. Let it out & let go of expectations
All the emotions you feel, just allow them, be with them, without a fight or criticism, this is your bodies way of moving through, processing and releasing life experiences.
3. Express differently
As humans we have an amazing capacity to keep doing the same things over and over without question and expect different outcomes. When you make the choice to express differently with love and not fear you change your behaviour and give your body a better chance at healing.
To express your grief try something new, if you normally keep it all in because you fear it may hurt more if you speak it, or its a burden to others ears, try a kinesiology session or counselling, sound healing, energy healing, guided meditations, drawing, art, writing, poetry, dance, give yourself the opportunity to move into the next phase of your life differently so you can experience newness.
4. Declare your experience as sacred and good
We can get nasty with ourselves if we feel something “negative”, I believe there is a purpose and reason to our experiences and it is to grow as spiritual beings, the greatest learning is through pain because we have to change it because its so uncomfortable and change is growth! See the gift wrapped in barbed wire, see how you have benefited and become a better person because of your experience.
5. Know how you want to feel
So you've been through a rough patch or still in it, it feels terrible, you're exhausted from the rollercoaster ride of emotions. Accepting how you feel now, how would you like to feel?
If its grief you feel, you may want to feel connection, if its sadness you may want to feel joy. Know that with all emotions you feel there is a flip side like a coin, know that when you feel sadness, joy is there underneath, all the beautiful emotions you know are all there, just like the sun doesn't stop shining, we see darkness because earth is blocking its brightness, your love and joy is the same, and all the heaviness is temporary and once moved like the earth around the sun, the light will shine again.
Remember that the love you perceive to be lost is still within you, and you can feel this for yourself and move more into unconditionally loving you and others.
I hope this helps calm your soul as you move through your own pain. Be gentle and kind to yourself, it takes time and there is beauty in the process if you're willing to see it.
If you are wanting support to let go and move forward, kinesiology is a powerful and effective way to transform your thoughts and emotions.
Contact me for more information or make a booking through the link below
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Don’t forget the sun is always shining